Dear Fellow Survivalist;
We all face it sometime, and with Christmas right around the corner, that sometime is likely to be soon… talking to an anti-gun relative who freaks out when they see us packing. It has happened to me before and I’m sure it’s going to happen to me again.
One part of the problem in dealing with these people is that we don’t even talk the same language. Not only are they functionally illiterate when it comes to guns, but it’s not like we’re talking about two sides of the same issue. The things we think are issues and the things they think are issues are not one in the same. It’s like one person talking about the moon being made of swiss cheese, while the other is talking about horse racing.
The other part of the problem is that the only argument they have is an emotional argument. I’ve run across this with family members, who are afraid of guns. That’s their whole argument, that they are afraid, so they “don’t like guns.” It doesn’t matter what I say, I’m not going to change their dislike and fear of guns.
But that doesn’t mean that I can’t win the argument. But if I’m going to win it, I need to change the grounds that the argument is being based on. As long as they can fall back on “I don’t like guns” I can’t get anywhere with them.
I get it that some people don’t like guns and I’m okay with that. There are things I don’t like too. Like most conservatives, I don’t try and impose my will or my way of thinking on anyone; all I want to do is keep them from imposing theirs on mine. If someone doesn’t like guns or is afraid of them, then as far as I’m concerned, they should leave the guns to me and others like me who like them and are competent in their use.
But even those who don’t like guns recognize their utility in the hands of competent people; or at least those they consider to be competent. Basically this means the police. If they find themselves in a dangerous position, needing protection, they want the police to be there at a moment’s notice to protect them.
That’s the opening we can use. As we know, when seconds count, the police are there in minutes. But you and I are already there, already armed, and ready to take action. In other words, we are protecting those anti-gun family members, any time we are with them.
To put that in more acceptable language, all we have to say is that we see carrying a firearm and becoming proficient in its use as a social responsibility. Since we readily acknowledge that the police can’t be everywhere, we have taken it upon ourselves to be in at least one place where the police are not. In doing so, we are not only protecting ourselves, but everyone else who is there.
That’s the argument which has won over my anti-gun family members. While they still don’t like guns, they accept that I carry, because I am protecting them by doing so. They know I’m not a murderer, so they can’t use that argument against me. By talking about social responsibility, I put the argument in a whole different realm, one which they really can’t argue against. That’s the key.
You could call this simple self-preservation on their part, but I think it goes deeper than that. Most people who are anti-gun are the same kind who become social justice warriors. By talking about social responsibility and protecting society at large, I’m talking their language. I’m showing myself to be the good guy, not just by my words, but by backing those words up with actions. They may not like it, but it’s hard for them to not accept it.
It helps that I’m known in my family for being a non-violent person who doesn’t anger easily. They all know that there is little risk of me pulling my gun in anger, because they’ve all seen me in situations where most people would be that angry, and I kept my cool. Even in those cases where I didn’t keep my cool, I didn’t draw my gun or even show that I had it. So they already know that I’m not likely to turn to murder, just because I’m angry.
If I had a bad temper and was prone to yelling a lot, my argument might not be as valid. But that’s beside the point; if I was an angry person, I wouldn’t carry, for fear that I would draw my gun at the wrong time. For that matter, they all know that I’m not a drinker either, so there’s no risk that I’ll use my gun when I’m drunk.
The final clincher for my argument is that I’m a better shot than all but one police officer that I know, and he’s actually a retired cop. I’ve taken the time to get the necessary training, not only in how fire my gun accurately, but how to deal with tactical situations. So, not only am I not a risk, but I’m well prepared to deal with any situation that might present itself.
This Holiday Season, if you get this sort of complaint from your anti-gun relatives, why not try my tactic. Let them know that your gun is there to protect them, when the police aren’t. They’ll have a hard time arguing against that one. And like always, keep your powder dry and your survival gear close at hand.