Dealing with Non-Shooters in Your Life

Dear Fellow Survivalist;

Like anyone else who carries, I’ve had to deal with my share of friends and family who don’t carry and don’t understand those of us who do. In their world, you and I are the aberrations, strange people who think it’s okay to kill others for sport. Forget the fact that only a miniscule number of legal gun owners ever use their guns for anything other than hunting and sport shooting, if we have guns, we must be murderers. And they’re glad to tell us their opinion of us, any chance they get.

It is imminently clear that these people are ignorant of guns and gun owners. Sadly, most of them want to stay that way. All that matters to them is that they are afraid of guns; therefore, guns are evil and anyone who uses them has to be evil as well.

But you and I know differently; as gun owners and possibly gun carriers, we know that guns are a useful tool in defending ourselves, our families and society in general. So we sit there quietly, listening to their verbal abuse and trying to ignore it as best we can. Either that, or we start talking about our Second Amendment rights and how they shouldn’t be violated by gun control laws.

There’s just one thing… that argument doesn’t work.

Don’t get me wrong; I’m not saying it’s not a valid argument; it is. What I’m saying is that in the eyes of the people we are arguing with, it doesn’t address their prime concern. What prime concern? Their feelings; their fear of guns. That’s the entire basis of their argument and if we don’t address it, we can’t swing them to our point of view.

But I have succeeded in switching at least of few rabid anti-gunners to my point of view, even to the point where they were comfortable in knowing that I was carrying in their presence. These are women I’m talking about; women I know, who were deathly afraid of guns. While they weren’t all ready to pick up a gun and become shooters themselves; they all reached a point where they were happy that I was carrying.

Let me say here that these were all women I had close relationships with. I don’t want to mention what sorts of relationships; because I want to respect their privacy. But suffice it to say, I’m not talking about neighbors, workmates or casual acquaintances.

Ok, so how did I pull this miracle off? It was actually quite simple. I changed the conversation. Rather than talking about guns and my rights, I talked about protecting them. I talked about the fact that as long as I was with them, they were under that protection. I also talked about how that protection walked out the door, whenever I had to leave.

I know it’s politically incorrect to say so, but men and women are different. One of those differences is that women have a basic need to feel safe and protected. The classic way for that to happen is to be in a home with a man who is their protector. Modern society has tried to eliminate that masculine role, but the need for it hasn’t gone away. Women still need that protection and they still need to feel protected.

So, here’s the argument – start with the statistics about police needing an average of 4 to 11 minutes to answer a 9-1-1 call in the city and criminals are at the crime scene only 90 seconds. If you present that clearly, it’s enough to show that the police can’t protect them. Then you say, “As long as I am with you, you don’t need to wait for the police to arrive. I am ready and able to protect you.”

End of argument. Oh, it may take some time for that to assimilate; but once it does, the argument is over. You’ve shown them where it is to their benefit for you to carry and how that solves a serious problem for them. That should be enough.

One other thing you might want to add to this is the statement that you see carrying a gun as a social responsibility. You know that the police can’t always be there to protect people, so by carrying, you are taking upon yourself the responsibility of protecting society. That makes you the white knight and all women like to have a white knight around. So be that white knight and let her know that you are. That fits in with keeping your powder dry and your survival gear close at hand.

Dr. Rich

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